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3 Things You Must do Before a One Night Stand
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The deep emotional connection and love between two people is what really makes sex great anyway, it can raise it to an almost spiritual level, a transcendent state, becomes more than just two bodies but two souls intertwined, mingled in love, it has a sacred element to it, the body then becomes just a means of expressing and experiencing the beauty of this reality, its sad that modern culture has lost sight of this truth and has reduced sex to just something "fun", a means of pleasure to be "had", in other words a product to be "consumed" etc, The ancient people's truly knew the true depth and sanctity of sex, aswell as every other aspect of life i believe, whilst we have in large part have lost this way of viewing things, the reasons for all this could fill thousands and thousands of pages if it were to be written down in full, in short though it is because of the destruction of religion and the spiritual/metaphysical framework that society was once built upon and ordered by and towards and the replacement of thus with what is ultimately a practical nihilism which itself grew from philosophical nihilism, the belief in no ultimate objective truth, god etc, the Natrual consequence of this ideology been that people then live their lives without the experience of a higher reality because the very subjective experience of man has been altered as a result of all this, so when it comes to sex it also is experienced only in its most base form, hedonistic pleasure seeking, instead of an expression of a spiritual inclination.
Teach me how to live
I had a hookup recently and it was so disappointing. He talked such a good game yet basically couldn't get it back up after I gave him head.
Got any advice for a 65 yr old man that has been alone my wife passed away in 2011and it put me in a dark place ive gotten out of the cave now trying online hookups with no luck 99% of the girls are way younger than my daughter. I’m not big on going out since i dont drink and the world is a sh%thole right now please any advice will be golden.i also love what you do thank you so much for all you do Les from texas
I prefer being in a relationship with a gal… 3 or 4 long term relationships I had, the sex was pretty good & exciting most of the time… But some of the most fun & best sex I experienced were one night stands as well. There were interesting times living in co-ed dorms, on base in the military. Lots of fun!
I lover your content Caitlin!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
First thing! Fucking stop and don't do it. Go create a real relationship with someone who loves you. My advice after way to many of them. They felt awesome, and I didn't notice I was becoming numb to real relationship and connection and the more to have them the more awesome people you miss while you B's yourself that this is all ok. 👍
Shouldn't there be a checklist, when was the last time you had sex with a random stranger, have you ever had or are currently being treated for any sexual disease, I ain't going to catch anything if I kiss you am I
can you speak of etiquette if a vasectomy is involved?
Hi Caitlin, I have a question for you, 'Do women want sex as much as men?' What do you think?
Chris. Martin
I'm six inches and 5 inches round, is that a good size
Nice to know I've been doing things right.
Chris. Martin
Chris. Martin
Yeah don’t.
Can you prove me wrong
Sorry dude but this is a complete failure for a sex expert. There’s nothing wrong morally with casual encounters but you really missed explaining to people the risk they take. If I get tested today and I’m negative, doesn’t mean I didn’t contract HIV the day before. It wouldn’t show up on the test. Not to mention whatever my partner is bringing. Yeah, I know you said there’s ways to treat everything, but really do you want to treat yourself for HIV your whole life just for a casual one night? I’m sure you must be aware of the emotional impact and ramifications for dating with HIV even though it’s not a death sentence. And what about herpes? Why don’t you make sure people know how asymptomatic it is and easily passed through oral? And even with a condom it’s passed genitally from intimate skin contact. Why don’t you stress the real risks and let people decide how glorious they think casual sex is. Because I guarantee you part of the mystery that you speak of that’s attractive about casual encounters includes people withholding their sexual health history. Strangers owe nothing to each other, including the truth. You’re trying to come off responsible but you’re not in this case. Sorry.
I don’t think I could do a one night stand unless she was a pretty good friend before hand.
First time sex never used a condom. I had one woman ask me to use a condom but I just couldn’t because it doesn’t feel good. She later trusted me not to use it. I had a somewhat opportunity to have one night stand with this woman I met at a temporary job. I always ask the personal question, are you clean. She so happen to not be clean and I didn’t run the risk of doing her because I care about my health more than about some pleasure for one night.
Moral values are definitely on the decline. Do you see a person or just a body?
How do you know all this stuff
Toys ABSOLUTLY NOT…
ANAL SEX..ABSOLUTELY NOT…YUK….
Thanks for your tips Caitlin. I am pretty sure I am never going to need them, but at least listening to it gives me the illusion of needing to know, which feels good.😉
One night stands, for straight guys, are not easy to pull off especially here in LA. You gotta have game, a nice car, be well dressed and be decent looking, and stay pretty patient and most importantly have luck. Too many parameters. It's probably easier in other parts of US but not in this city. Exceptions include college kids from fraternities and sororities or highly paid pros who hang out in fancy Beverly Hills bars. Everyone else is pretty much fucked.
"baby gravy"
Love that XD
Fantastic! Absolutely crucial information and so empowering! I cannot tell you how appropriately timed your informative video is. I have been sharing so much of what you discussed this week prior to viewing this.
Thank you very much for creating open, candid, informed videos. ❤️
Well done 👏🏻 ✔️ ✔️
I'm still amazed that people actually have one night stands! I guess there's just a LOT of people WAY better at social interaction than I will ever be! I've been sexually active for 36 years and the closest I've ever come to a one nighter (that I didn't pay for) is a woman I had sex with on the second date; we were together for nine years…
Hey baby, What if the condom breaks? YEAH! Never said in the history of one night stands. Men deal with shame too. They worry about what the woman thinks. Keep up the great work Caitlin.
Lmao opportunity to grow 😂
Ummmm, a one night stand with your spouse isn't a one night stand by definition. What she described is what used to be called role-playing.
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One night stands can be really wild 😛
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I think You are Awesome Caitlin!
One Night Stands, Oh My, What a subject. It's what's after…Not Always Good!
I'm in my 30's and never had sex with a woman. It's incredibly frustrating for me, but I stay positive and try not to dwell on it to much!👍
Seems like you are only talking to men. Don't women also have one night stands?
To the girls in the room. If it's a one night stand, you're a ho and don't deserve a good man and he only sees you as a piece of meat. If you're ok with that good luck. If this offends you, know that I'm talking to the you when you're 35, hit the wall and can't quite figure out where all the good men are. Hint, they snatched up the good ones that are not ho's while you were trying to figure out what panties to wear. Have a nice day 🙂
Wash your end and sack. Wear clean boxers.
My genitals don't swing much these days 😢😢
Quick question. Not that there's anything for me to worry about (I won't go into the rant again), but wouldn't giving your 100% and all that jazz create a situation that might make your one night stand partner think twice about it being just a one night stand? Though a lot of guys like to think that they are the king of the bedroom and their one night stand partner had mediocre sex before they came along (pun not intended), every now and then that rings true. I know a relationship is more than just sex, but if your partners is left with the feeling that, in the moment, you paid way more attention to their needs way more than yours, wouldn't that cause them to wonder if there's more areas that you'd pay attention to?
For almost half of my years of having sex I was a complete idiot……..er…..less knowledgeable in the ways of sex and had no clue that my partner could orgasm (cause no one likes to friggin talk about it), so I had always focused on me. Now that I know better and have more information, I am 100% about my partner getting theirs and enjoying it because that increases my sexual encounter a thousand fold. When they're not, it feels mechanical. So, even with a one night stand, I would still treat it like I'm having sex with a long term partner. Yet, I wouldn't want there to be a chance of leaving them wanting more, or a repeat performance. Not that there's a chan………Nope. Not going to rant again.
I just use the LA / Figueroa method.
Motel
Condom
and Payment
Easy as one two three
Being a guy who lacks the ability to separate his heart and his dick, I've always been envious of those able to compartmentalize enough for random hookups.