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Can Sex Be Better After Childbirth?
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Short answer: NO
I feel bad for the men that aren’t already doing even before kids. All of this is all things to do regardless. More important after baby, but important nonetheless
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4 kids deep, and our sex life is better than its ever been. Not only has being parents made us closer, but a whole new meaning to sex as a whole. Free time between us has become a currency like gold. We've both become more comfy with each other physically and trying all kinds of new things.
12:00 after three kids can confirm 👍 . After our 3rd this July (and last due to her tubal ligation) our passion turned aggressive again, we've branched out into making more compromises, we've opened up to trying new things to jump start that honeymoon phase again, just made us closer and a much better team feeling that finality of knowing this was our last child and committing to US 100% again. We finally agreed us being more intimate and closer is best for our marriage and therefore better as parents. If I were to compare all aspects of our sex, physical, emotional, and mental, to 12 years ago before we were married or had kids…it is SOOO MUCH better now. Just as hot and wild (if not more so!) but with that mature swagger to it!
Three things to note. One: When is a guy never in the mood? I wanted sex the very day I came home from my appendix surgery (and got it). Two: Post Partem Depression is a real thing. Sometimes so severe that most of your attempts to reassure her that she's still just as sexy (if not sexier) as she was before giving birth falls flat and doesn't register with her brain. Three: Having intimate time, whether just dates or sex, is a bit easier after you have the second kid. When she gives birth for the first time, good luck prying the baby from her. I don't begrudge her of that either. I mean she just went through 9 months of carrying this kid and then however many hours of giving birth to it for the first time. For us dad's it's really amazing to watch her go through all of that and then when we see her holding our first born…..They say that men only cry three times in their life and that event is one of them. So, I'm sure that it's 1000% more of an experience for her. This may apply to some new dad's, but new mother's are extremely hyper aware of their babies and what that baby is doing. With the first kid, mom's are in "mom" mode 24/7. Even if the baby is laying in the crib, Mom is flinching (probably not the right word) at every sound the baby makes. This causes her "turned on" state to be a very very short window. I said all of that to say this. I know that "somebody has to pay the bills". I had to use that excuse when my daughter spent her first month in the hospital (7 weeks premature). That statement doesn't comfort anyone. Our attempts to make our woman feel sexy and beautiful again will fail if we're leaving her with doing all the child caring. Even if she's adamant about feeding, bathing, burping, or changing the baby, we need to take the load off of her. Do the house work. Do whatever it is to make her not feel like she's stretched thin both mentally and physically. Also, dads, be apart of feeding, bathing, burping, and changing the baby. Mothers start bonding with the baby way back during pregnancy. As dads, our bonding doesn't come until after the baby is born and helping care for that baby is the best way to bond with it. Sorry for being a bit wordy.
Considering the fact that in order to have sex at all you must first be born, yes it is better.
Well it becomes like a wellie top…so no
But if your lucky,use the tradesmen's entrance!
The sexy with my wife never decreased at all. Of course I made sure she had breaks from watching the kids frequently. I love my children and her. One thing she thanked me for at our anniversary party was that I always made her feel importune first when I got home. I always kissed and hugged her before the kids got all the attention. Also she also got a lot more sensitive down there. Just had to learn to work around that to a benefit for the both of us. Also I didn't care if the kids could see us making out or not. We have 4 of them and it stayed the same if not got better due to her increased sensitivity. Now at 44 years old, we still have sex at least 6 times per week and play all the time. Marriage isn't that hard, but you have to place priority on your partner and that is from the both of you. Communication is easy when you know that it will lead to happy places!!
U talk alot about lasting longer, is there anyway to help with lasting to long. It is something I have been dealing with for a long time and I am looking for advice or help of any kind.
Yep with me it can.
Finding the time and energy for sex is probably the biggest challenge for new parents. My wife and I have mastered the art of the quickie 😉
Not for the guy
i learn something new on this coach Caitlin V
Ironically, my sex life got much better after the kids came along. Actually, about 15 years after, when I got a divorce from a joy hating shrew and got together with a woman who really loved intimacy and pleasure! Seriously, the first three years with her we had more sex than the entire 15 years I'd been married to the ex! (Probably in the first 6 months, for that matter!) Also, new GF was multi-orgasmic and a squirter, thanks to amazing chemistry between us.
Well I don't have to deal with it because I don't have a girlfriend for sex a lot so yeah but good to know
do you have a kid Caitlin? 🙂
It did not get better – it got way less frequent also
100% YES! With each of my four childbirths, my body experienced trauma that I thought would surely put me out of the game for good. I'll spare the details, but I will say this: it's absolutely possible to have the most passionate, pleasurable, connected, and expansive sex of your life after having kids.
Fascinating thank you