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Cliche Things Men Say (That Ruin a Relationship)
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Thank you, this was helpful
asking a woman if she's cum yet after her fifth or sixth orgasm can often get a laugh the first time, and is worth it to make a point when she faked before having some real ones.
You are an awesome lady. I love your channel. I've seen several of your videos.
When I was a child in 1980s, we listened to dr Ruth westheimer on the radio. I don't know why I didn't think to be a sex therapist when it came time for college. I ended up taking business and was working in a very good place for a long while.
Much success and health to all.
Lmao. This whole list is what women say or do in relationships. But targeted at men. Every instance of this happening in my or someone i knows life, it was a woman do it. Except the period one. Where she gets mad that you knowing it affects their mood but immediately concedes that it's does.
My Ex did that. She turned into a drug addict when she joined PTA. Worked in Restaurants industry. Stole money all the time to fund her drug and alcohol addiction. Now she is busted.
Here's a good one that men say that ruin a relationship—- "will you marry me".
Thank you 💖☯️🎏❤️
You are always lying to men about what women actually want sexualy
When are you going to stop lying to men
Far as #12 goes she is the one who says “I don’t care” when we get into something 🤦🏿♂️
Pfft, I'd ask if it's her time of the month strictly on a informational basis (maybe not flat out but side to it). More for my personal knowledge and can prepare.
As for the food, if I ask that, it's because I'm still hungry haha
You mentioned the wife's mother being a narcissist, so obviously you know they exist…
My wife is one of them. And I do want her to leave. I have mentioned the D, as in divorce, word more than once. But, she is still here.
I have been in contact with lawers, and private detectives, I record the time at which she comes back home, etc. But she just doesn't want to leave. How do I make her leave?
I've tried being a gray rock. No, it didn't make her leave.
The many times she bates me, I do not blow up. I try not to give her her narcissistic supply. But she is still here.
Perhaps when my money runs out, she will leave…
Things not to say to a man – using the term "man" or "real man" to shame us into some behavioral change, or comparing boys and men with the same intent, like you just did at the end of this video.
One thing I didn’t hear you say. When two people are talking/or arguing, it’s not always what you say, but what you didn’t say.
Why can't women Communicate with a man and talk with them about what hurts them and what they want in bed and what they like and don't like why doesn't everyone talk to one another?
What is the music in the background?all your videos have the most calming but upbeat tempos to them,that would be perfect for love-making background noise.
Good points!
Beware : the “four horsemen” are also the typical traits of borderlines and narcissistic persons!
Alot of these are very confusing, in that they appear to endorse basically lying to your partner. I don't want my partner to lie to me in any way…I'd much rather her be completely honest. So why can't I?
On #4: how do break up with someone?
You are the XOXOXOXOing best!😉😈💙
It’s sad that people don’t know this stuff instinctively. I don’t allow my emotions to dictate what leaves my lips. My spouse or anyone should not give two schits about what I feel,they should only care about what I think or know!
Lol I thought “are you gonna eat that” meant we can’t have her leftovers
Hi Caitlin, I’ve tried to reach out to in the comments section of your YouTube videos with the hopes to salvage my sex life with my wife; however, I haven’t received a response from you, another sex therapist, nor other viewers/listeners.
Our sex life is almost non-existent at this time.
Maybe if you don’t/can’t provide feedback, then a lady or a gentleman from your audience may help???
Background: we’re in our early 40s with 2 kids, ages 7 and 9. The kids have been going to school daily through covid; she’s an accountant, and I work for a major pharmaceutical company in chemistry R&D.
I was laid off 2 years ago from a position I had for 14 years and my wife does earn more money than I do now, which is a leading cause of divorce (women who make more money than men),
My wife’s a bit on the heavy side, about 5’4 , around 175, with a big booty (I love the way she looks and feels and I OFTEN tell her so in and out of the bedroom).
I’m 5’11, I believe good looking, broad shoulders, and weigh around 190-195 (too much fast food). HOWEVER, I’M ONLY PACKING 4 inches with no girth…
We have sex about 10x per year; however, I give her oral every 2 weeks…
The ONLY TIME I’M able to help my wife orgasm is when I give her oral sex.
She has a clitoral orgasm about 90% of the time through oral. Sometimes my head/mouth gets tired and we use a vibrating egg to get her off when I can’t finish her off with my tongue.
Every few months she gets on top of me, and is able to have an orgasm rubbing herself off against me.
I’m 99% confident that my wife doesn’t fake these orgasms because I’ve only seen her orgasm these two ways, ONE time when I bought her a dildo and she squirted using it, and on MULTIPLE occasions when I’ve worn a penis sleeve that made my penis 9” long and over 5” thick.
My wife has gone wild when she’s had vaginal orgasms, and when she has a clitoral orgasm she gets very wet, blushes, and then is very sensitive to the touch down there.
I told her when wearing the penis sleeve I couldn’t feel anything at all, including her wetness and there’s no pleasure for me, SO she refuses to allow me to wear a penis sleeve for her pleasure anymore…
When we have sex it can ONLY BE missionary or her on top. HOWEVER, she just lays motionless during missionary, quiet as can be, and the ONLY THING she ever says, “PLEASE JUST GO”.
When we have missionary sex my wife OFTEN checks to make sure I’m still inside of her… She has said that I’ve slipped out, but I have been ALL THE WAY INSIDE of her!!!
How do I position myself to enter her from behind if she’s heavier and I’m smaller?
All of the “sex experts” say this is the position for deep penetration and many orgasm!!!!
However, I CANNOT penetrate my wife from behind- it won’t stay in/doesn’t connect….
Contrary to what many say, size does matter to a big extent!
My wife used to ask me to talk dirty in bed and she used to talk dirty in bed. Now it it’s just like I’m using her body to get off once every 8-10 weeks and I feel crappy.
I know she’s not having an affair and I’ve asked her if everything is “okay” with her female anatomy.
I’d love to improve our sex life- but my wife doesn’t get pleasure from me?
Any advice for “fitting in” during doggy style since it’s highly recommended for smaller than avg men?
Thanks!!
Listening to these cliches is giving me a major flashback
My ex-wife used to say probably 75% of these to me!
OMG! I can't wait, I've been trying get mine to leave for awhile.
So basically like having a kid
Thanks for sharing! What is this a frickin' AA meeting?! If I hear an "I'm sorry" from ANYONE I immediately tell them ITS ALL YOUR FAULT IM TELLING WHERES THE MANAGER
I'm going to have to watch this again, with a pen and paper this time
are you still talking?
This is a good list, however just keep in mind that almost all of these things go both ways. Women shouldn't do or say most of these things to her guy either!
Happy to say that I don't say any of those in my relationships, but it might be because I know I hate hearing those, since I'm a girl…
Oh, no, I sometimes ask "are you (still) gonna eat that?", but now in a "you shouldn't be eating that" way. I usually do that by the time we seem to be done eating to make sure they're done and clean up. (Native Polish and it doesn't sound that bad in Polish, I swear.)
Abe Lincoln was a devout Christian and quoted Jesus in Matthew 12:25. It wasn’t his original saying.
Thank you! super informative! your extremely articulate! Can you do one for women?
Coming from me I always had this thing for older women early to late 30s respectively for me im easy to please alcohol coffee and cigarettes are my basic needs everything else is just added but it gets me through each day and what not but I keep my presence scarce but so far im keeping myself unloved since its always money and ego bigger inevitable factor
How is saying "I know you are feeling a lot of emotions right now, but in a few days it will be better." Any better than saying "is it that time?" The first time she might take it, but the second time she hears that it will sound just like the other one to her. Give her some credit she knows what you mean. Also this video is all about how you need to be a doormat and just take it as a man. Validate her crazy ass, sympathize. No you need to stay above and not let her suck you into her drama. Stay cool and composed. Listen and allow her to vent. If she starts to disrespect you cut her off and say you will not tolerate verbal abuse from her. If she won't respect that explain the boundaries of what you will accept and leave. You can not allow her to get to you, if you do she'll wield that knowledge like a samurai sword and cut you to ribbons every time. You are the man and you have to be stronger than that. When the sh$t hits the fan, she will look to you to take care of it. If you let her drag you down into petty things she won't believe your strong enough for the bigger problems and lose respect for you. There are good points to this video, but a lot of it is just a woman saying what she thinks she wants but doesn't in the end.