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Don’t Be Creepy – 10 Ways You Could Be Creeping Her Out
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In my twenties, I went shopping for clothes with an old boyfriend once. When I turned to head towards the dressing rooms, he physically blocked me from going maybe twenty feet away. I quit going shopping for anything with that guy after that encounter. He and I dated for four years, thankfully I didn't marry him.
Women find me creepy when I creep under the dining tables in restaurant.
Complimenting her clothes is bad??? I can't say, oh that shirt looks so cool?
As a comedian once said, "Don't say anything to a woman you wouldn't want to hear in prison." 😂
Great content
Yeah but women say creepy about any men they don't find attractive and who makes advances. That's the issue. Of course there are creepy man, but I know so many women call a guy creepy if he says "Hey Susan. Looking good today" but don't look like Chad.
And many times a "no" does not mean no. Sometimes they say no playfully, othertimes they mean it. Of course with some common sense you can pick out which no is real and which is not, but that is a bodylanguage thing and not a verbal thing.
And asking women to touch them aka getting consent, is also often just a mood killer.
Look, I understand that if women mean no they think saying no is enough, but they also say no when they want it sometimes… So. Yeah. There is that, too.
My advice to men is: Touch her, make advances and if they reject you, take the hint and don't pursue further. But don't ask for permission, rather ask for forgiveness. It brings you a lot further. Asking a woman "can i hold you hand?" may sound romantic or something, but in reality women will say no and think it's too weird that you ask, even if they wouldn't have disliked it if you just had went for it.
And since when do women not like it when you compliment them? "Oh, you have great hair today" ??? What the fuck? Sorry, I liked your other videos but so far I am disagreeing with everything you say. And I am quite successful with my flirting.
And asking "do you have a dog" is also neither weird nor creepy, and I never met anyone who was weirded out by that question in the first place. If it comes up, it comes up. Even if it's one of the first things you ask
Getting sexual quickly – also not a problem if she is into you.
See even you make this mistake of womansplaining things to men as a fact that are actually very much dependent on context. If she likes you, then getting sexual quickly is fine. If she's not into you, then it's creepy.
Same goes for being close to someone, which I think is what you mean with "restricting movement". Pushing someone back into a corner is definitely rapey, but if you just stand close to a woman and you flirt and she's into it, it's fine. Of course, if you stand close, she will not be able to walk away easily.
I have creeped women out before without exhibiting ANY of the traits you discussed. What else. Could I be doing wrong? Combing my hair wrong?!
Asking before a kiss is a pretty big turnoff for many and kills sexual tension.
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No.7 I run 50 miles a week and don't see anybody on the peaceful field where I run alone.
What you spend at the gym you can buy and build one at home 🤷🏻♂️
It DID hurt when i fell from heaven.Unfortunately, it was a LONG fall, onto my face.
The apparently permanently disfiguring injury also causes me to LURCH, always in the wrong directions.
But Caitlin, your clear & emphatic explanations are important, invaluable, priceless. Thank you!
hey Caitlin, 😂 I wanted to thank you very much, for the Kitty Cat Kisses, it is very thoughtful to include them in your videos. 😁😉
Thank you for the education. I hope I’m not a creep. At least I try not to be. I am aware of all of your 10 rules and thank you for reinforcing them.
Women who swear are creepy. So uncouth.
Women do NONE of this and shouldn't get a free pass. But men have started to figure out this double standard and shut down. I appreciate the attempt, but they just seem like more incoherent female rules, making me feel like SHE is inauthentic. Nobody "connects" anymore, they navigate. I'm tired of "doing things for women…" with no results, or borderline psychotic and childish behavior. Women need to correct feminism first, then reconnect with their feminine side. Once then recalibrate, then things will get better. Feminism fights biology, the very thing that's been programmed into our DNAs for millions of years. I'll stick to being alone for now, happy with myself and the future I've built. I know who I am, and really don't need the headaches that come with modern women. They're better off alone with their toxic thoughts and their cats. LOL.
Asking someone out is not flirting. It’s asking someone out. Flirting is more playful, but doesn’t mean you’re trying to get in her pants. I flirt with women, but it’s not threatening. You do it in a way as not to make them feel uncomfortable , because you’re not getting in her space or getting sexual aggressive with. It’s subtle. No the difference. I also find girls use the word creepy for guys they just don’t like. It’s over used.
And the best thing is why to ask, why to date, why to marriage, if they have many prob with us😅😅😅😅 afterall man ll b in the huge lose. No health, no wealth, no life, no respect, no status👎🏿👎🏿
Woman gets creepy after getting into relationship as their behaviour is…. they dont start any move first…. this makes her move hiding.
That's your choice to wear small skin tight clothes. And I would argue that they wear that too get hit on and attention from men
Women shouldn't touch men randomly either
All you do is contradict yourself
Not being tall, hot and having a horse d is all it takes to be seen as creepy
Very helpful, thank you.
Thank you Caitlin, as a man going out with the same woman for 4 and then getting married to her for 32 years I’ve learned a few things that did not occur to me that it would creep her out, like taking liberties when giving her a hug and then patting her back side.🤔
Yer sweet yer nice Thank you 🌹 Very smart 🧠
Bottom line dont approach a woman. She doesnt know what being man means so her "advice "doesnt really make much of a difference.
Something I've noticed a lot of guys will do, maybe without even trying to be creepy, is to continue a conversation past its expiration date when it's clear from the girl's body language that she wants to leave/ be left alone. ( looking at her watch or phone nervously, looking around for a natural exit or hoping someone steps in to interrupt). It's kind of related to using one's size or mass to block her escape except I think most guys who do this just aren't socially calibrated enought to realize they are doing it. A general rule of thumb for the curious is that if a girl is interested in talking to you or even likes you, she will do most of the talking and ask most of the questions. If she starts giving you a lot of one word replies or displaying the above nervous behaviors while you're asking most of the questions, it's time for you to make a polite exit.
It’s hard to learn about eye contact when you just find out that you are autistic.
what if my at one time liked the way I touched her and now she thinks its creepy
Gym guy here, don’t hit on women at the gym, eh? How about women that go to the gym have to MANDATORY wear baggy sweatpants and sweatshirt so they don’t tease us men into hitting on them instead of super sexy super tight workout clothes?
Oh wait, women love the MALE attention? Now there’s a reverse version of creepy, Ya think?
I got this idea. How about when you get off work you can get on me😏
I don't do any of these things as I don't hit on women. My social anxiety has me stop before things start. 🙃 if there's a no, I stop everything.
Lol this list is true if you’re not an attractive man if she find you physically attractive a few of these things communicates a lot of confidence
I'm 71 been divorced for 30 years, have not had a date or sex in about 25 years, but I still like watching your channel. 🙂
Love the insight and your videos. I just don't completely agree with all of #7. With the Starbuck scenario if that's a part of my routine and I give a worker my number I shouldn't have to change my routine or never go back to a business because I asked someone out. In the gym scenario what if that's the only place I see her? Should I wait in the parking lot to talk to her ( more creepy in my opinion) so I don't take 10 seconds to give my spiel to see if she want to talk outside of the gym. Then after that do I need to find a new gym.
I think women should focus on women when it comes to domestic violence. Studies show by FBI that women on women is the highest
Wow the touch is very important im so glad you dont hold back on what really happens on a day to day basis