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Get Her to Initiate Sex More!
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So basically the man is still initiating just in a roundabout way…get her flowers give her compliments do things for her so she has less on her plate…no not playing that game ..how do you get your gf or wife to initiate without any reminders without bribes without favors..just straight up initiate it like men do..I've been the only one initiating before and when I stop initiating I get don't you want me anymore…what? M always the one initiating and after awhile as a man it feels like your begging or that having sex is an inconvenience so that's why it's nice for men when women initiate without us doing anything…that way we don't feel pathetic by initiating all the time it makes us feel like we are the only ones interested if we always start it…but then we get hit with don't you wante anymore…what that's what I should be asking since I'm the only one to try to start sex….men really get abused with sex sometimes…some dudes have women that use sex as a weapon
Useful tips!
A little change and differences now and then can get her setup in anticipation and wondering mode and wanting to find out what possibly could be curiously next ??? 🤔 🤔 And there's a good chance she will initiate !!!
Oh us men know exactly how painful it is to be sexually rejected over and over again, you don't need to tell us that Caitlin 😉
Yes,😭😭😭 and it's got me 🤯🤯🤯
Don't refuse every time she wants it is my number one. If the answer is always no, she's going to stop trying.
I realize this is generally more the other way, but it does happen to women too.
This video is bullshit she just doesn’t have that dawg in her
Meh
Communication, verbal and touching.oh and listening.
I just gave up.
I do plenty of housework, take care of myself, listen to her moan about work, compliment her, i dont pressure her….im pretty confident it is her fault 😅😅
I agree with this – 100%!!!
I quit asking years ago – it would be like a job to her if I initiated sex!
I just hold out & try to romance her & perform small favors during the week – when she initiates sex it’s 10X more intimate & naughty!
I have to have a few drinks to relax – to be able to keep up & last more then 30min so we both can totally enjoy the moment!
Can we do a version for when women are the ones initiating sex the most?
Another excellent topic sometimes when I was younger, I used to get a little mad because after the honeymoon, you know things start to slow down and then no always a problem and it’s that’s all you want that’s all you want and it’s really damaging to me. It’s not all we want. It’s a lot of work we want but it’s not what we want and you know it, it was a little hurtful because it’s well hurry up you know and then it’s like fuck now hence ex-wives after spending hours and hours and hours making sure that they would work around the house shaking for the rest of the day every time so men have to be careful, because just like everybody else women become complacent with those that they have and selfish. It’s unfortunate and now that I’m older I found that the women that I have think that they are too old to have the banging bunny sex again. and it is a great shame to me to see somebody reject the best, the freest, and the most exhilarating the healthy thing that human beings can do together for nothing more than a little bit of sweat exchanged hopefully good talk.
Sadly…. marriage ends the initiaion of sex by the woman. It's like she doesn't want to play tennis anymore. Oh well, the door is left open to search for someone who still desires to hit the ball. 😞
Thank you. This is good information. My gf and I started hooking up 15 months ago and at the time she was in a toxic relationship she felt she was stuck in. We formally became exclusive 4 months ago and we spend most of our time together when we're not at work or school. We have great sex and she tells that we have such great sex. I find that I have a much higher sex drive than her. I'll do all of the caressing on her body in the exact ways you described in your other video about how to touch a woman but sometimes she's still not into it. Sometimes we'll have sex everyday for almost a week straight and sometimes it's every 2-3 days. When i was with my baby mama i was used to sex almost daily or more than once a day. I'll caress my current gf in all the right ways and be turned down sometimes and it makes me feel kinda shitty. During our phase of "hooking up" she slept with another ex of hers who has a really thick and long penis and because of this it makes me worry she's bored of me or my shit isn't good enough when she's not in the mood or/and I'm the only one initiating sex.
So it feels as though whenever we do have sex, even great sex, it seems like her attitude is "that was good, i won't have to do it again for a while" not at all "hey that was good, i can't wait to do it again"
Absolutely!
Thanks Caitlin you address everything so well and understanding
Yes
She was sexually frustrated and stressing and tension. Then I showed up with aprhodesiac chocolate. No stress was completely in the moment
After 1.5 years into a psych therapy I learned that tethering our own happiness into the hands of our love one is the receipe for a disaster.
Healthy couples are formed by 1 happy men and 1 happy women that both wants to be happy together.
What I don’t like about your analysis is that the women need the men to act a certain way to make his girlfriend feel a certain way. For me it’s a red flag. It’s conditional.
I think that the person who doesn’t initiate sex have a problem to solve by him/herself. Not relying on someone else to cope the problem.