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How long should sex last?
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43 Comments
43 Comments
Quality vs quantity makes sense, but oftentimes that just turns into no quantity OR quality. 3 x a week vs once is one thing, but when it’s only happening a couple times a year at best…well…that’s a whole other problem.
If you are really making love, at least one hour and multiple orgasms for your lady, Caitlin… Then aftercare.
My time 20-30 mints too much
I generally go until she asks me to finish.
Interesting … I do notice there is a large difference between dating / honeymoon phase, marriage, marriage with kids, then dating again.
Seems like 2 hours is normal early in a relationship, maybe an hour when married. Then kids, shorten that time to about 30 minutes or so.
Just my personal opinion .. I had a great marriage for 22 years till my wife passed. Now that I’m dating again, the time window is going up with lots of for-play.
I did not count aftercare because I assumed that is nice for both parties I’m my time estimates.
20 minutes of Penetration?
I'd like it to last longer but, I only pay for an hour. ; )
I love the pictures that go with this.
20min penetration ahh hmmmmmm🤔🤔
Great advice, I think this 20/20/20 format is a good starting point. Maybe some people might go a bit longer or a bit shorter in some or all of the three sections, but that's a good template for people to work with if they aren't sure.
Think for me and my girlfriend lately it's been like 15/35/10…still adds up to an hour-ish, haha, to each their own.
If you really good in bed you don't need much forplay to warm her up, she will think of you all day and can't wait for you to come home and jump into bed by that time she is already all wet and ready to explode, atleast my girlfriend is 😉😉
I'd prefer to see a bagel represent anal instead of chocolate, please.
Thank you for the great content!
I'm usually working for 45 min AT LEAST. If my body gives in stamina wise, I keep working on it with my hands or mouth. But if we talk about pure Penetration it's about 20-30 min.
I agree with your average of 1 hour during sex
I have actually been wondering this, and here this video pops up in my recommendations like it’s nothing. Thank you YouTube you kinky algorithm.
I wish i could sue you fOr being so ignorant and talking ABout you're a coach! This is what a woman must-have in sexual relationship commitment from her man. By 30 her man should be able to give her 1 hour, by 40 two hours, by 50 3 hours. But men are minute men. I found the aNSWER. sHE Is CLUELESS.
But it is so frustrating listening to this woman like she knows what she is talking about. She don't! How long has any man lasted with you, Caitlin? I explain this in my book how that a woman's intuition tells her subconscious that a man will of twice the time he does intercourse that he did in foreplay, i.e. 10minutes foreplay, 20 minutes intercourse.
However, by this time in a female's sexual trial and error stage (which is how everyone learns, except me) whereby she has developed two sexual barriers bc of her past experience that reinforced her notions on how long her guy is going to last. (he will not last longer than the scenes he uses to jack off with in porn) I say a man must spend 10minutes on each base (i.e. 1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base) I fund that they work by timing. If a man makes love to a woman the first time for one hour concentrating on 30 minutes foreplay and 30 minutes copulation then it will break the bond of her thinking he will do twice in sex that he did in foreplay.Its in da' book! But she don't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love yoU! So easy to watch!
hi mam have u ever read book of Erica jong ( fear of flying)
It is the problem of my life!I can't last more than a few minutes!What's to do? How can I change the situation?
Lots of fore play lots get her all worked up .
Yes you play for as long as you can then you cuddle eat some food and then work her up again and you get her all wet make love and get her to spray all over then you have a nice shower let her sleep when she wakes up cook her a really nice meal bring it to her in bed give her a nice massage get her relaxed totally relaxed and kiss her gently over her body .
I like going at it for a day or two 😊😊😊😊💪
A fucking hour!! Looks like i need to be a porn star
OK, I watch a lot of your videos because I'm kind of a sex connoisseur, and I know I won't get any response, but I seriously don't get some of what you're saying. Can you speak to some of us who actually have never had any problem with premature ejaculation? There are other issues involved in sex, right? I've literally had women tell me to stop what I was doing because their bodies couldn't take any more orgasms, before I even came. But that's not meant to brag. I mean to say there are other things to focus on, too. Seriously, spending only an hour on sex to me seems ludicrous. I want an all night experience with lots of foreplay and multiple acts with a lot of playing in between. So, I mean, really, is the main problem in most sex lives just that the man doesn't last long or have any idea how to concentrate on the woman's pleasure? How about those of us who are tired of women acting like spreading their legs and making themselves available is all it takes to please a man? Or the fact that most women think 3 minutes of playing at giving a man a blowjob before complaining their jaws hurt should be more than enough? I mean, I get that your channel seems to be geared mostly towards guys concentrating on nothing more than pleasing women, but do you or anyone else on the internet address talking to women about how to please men? Don't get me wrong. I love your channel. I think you personally are amazing. But your channel as well as so many others leave me with the impression that sex really should only be about the woman's pleasure and men should just be happy to get off. Believe it or not, some men actually do love feeling connected and enjoy foreplay and want the whole experience and aren't just concerned about nutting. What about women actually contributing to sex, rather than just being the ones who should be focused on? Once again, don't get me wrong. I adore you and love your channel. I just get a bit tired of constantly being told that sex is all about a man concentrating all his energy and being on pleasing a woman, when my experiences have mostly been that women think sex is all about them and I should just be happy with whatever I get. Sorry if I sound negative, but even as a dom in some of my relationships I feel like sex is supposed to be all about the woman. I'd like some attention and connection and more than just getting off because of what I do once in a while. Am I too old fashioned? Too progressive maybe? Is the idea of a woman working to please a man just too insulting to women these days? Or is it just the only focus on these channels is helping men to last longer and give women orgasms? Am I wrong in this political climate to want a woman to focus on pleasing me sometimes? I'm seriously interested in your thoughts.
I'll ask my sex doll, she does not say much though.
How long does it need to last if I had a buy one get on free coupon?
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The right amount of time is the time best suited for individual couples. An hour isn’t for everyone so as long as the two of you are content be it 5 minutes or an hour be happy.
I go about 30 minutes on average but I can sometimes bust after 3 minutes of I get too excited
good thing i last hours
20 mins foreplay
20 mins penetration
20 mins cuddling
how about i do for a a couple of rounds would that work
Thank you for counting in the post-orgasmic state! So important!
1 out of 3 ?? Wow!
3hrs
it should last until they have an orgasm or someone get a cramp !!!!!….older folks will under stand
The chocolate for the anal though🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I need to take notes ..I’ll back for a replay
Your spot on! Love this video
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Very nice
My wife and I are 38 years old, 2 small kids (7 and 5), they sleep with us most nights. My wife has very stressful job. We last 5min tops, maybe sometimes is before 10 min foreplay, but not always. And last year or two we have sex 10 times a year. If we didn't have sex for 1-2 months, I can't last to much, but my wife sometimes is the same, because if she has first orgasm, she can't go on, we need to stop, because she is in pain ( I'm on large side, don't brag, it is like it is) and can't go on. From when we had kids every year is less and less. And if I have sex every 1-2 months, how can I last long? I love my wife and for me she is smoking hot, and I really get exited, and sometimes because of that don't last long
Very good advise. Whole heartedly agree BUT there is a term Quicky lol. Both partners some time just wanna have little breakfast and not Dinner all the time. Cheers