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How to Flirt without Being “That Guy”
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37 Comments
Im a sexual retard
Females so complicated
As a young boy who can be a good person, and I'm not too foolish and under-raging, so you don't need assistance with, in other words "Stop It, Get Some Help"
I feel sad that women dont feel comfortable just saying no if not interested. As adults we should be ok with it and understand some people just aren't interested. I prefer being direct instead of playing hidden meaning games with indirect words. Sometimes they can be more hurtful than just being told no
Don’t buy her a drink .
I disagree with one and two. Because your time is valuable. And tunnel vision is an even worse sign of desperation. When I flirt, my agenda is to find out who she is. I don't know anything about her. Second I don't have time to wait for her to get comfortable. Why would I give her that kind of power over me, I don't know this woman. The only thing she can do is say no, but she needs to know you can leave anytime too.
11:01 Having the perspective you mentioned is really healthy in life. But in order to do that you need to have some sort of success in that area as well. I cannot blame a guy who has been rejected his whole life romantically if he is scared of rejections, and take rejectiond personally.
The advice looks great but I don't understand the concept of flirting in general my interaction usually is normal conversation nothing related to sex or relationship. Just pure innocent talk. I think I don't understand. My perception of flirting looks so abusive I do not try it😐
goes both ways. if you get a polite lady-like 'no thanks' then be a gentleman about it. have gratitude for the time and opportunity. if they are rude, you have no such obligation.
I get it now !!!!.it not so much the words you say, but the playful vibe you have. NO AGENDA was the key note.
More men should really listen to this one.
Women suck at communication…
But I want to be that guy😋
This video is about how not to flirt. It barely says anything about what to actually do.
What is wrong with matchmakers?
@CaitlinV >>> 👍👍
I have to disagree on 1 point and that is y'all's (the women's) for y'all's no to be clear and not hidden to be misunderstood!!!
7:12
Could be her 'yes' or her just being a tease. Waste of time and energy.
5:53
Games. Just be an adult and say what you mean instead of in cyphers. Grow up.
I must have rotten luck or negative energy attracting the wrong women as some are so entitled out there. Refuse to go for the guy they like, out of some false expectation that it's always the guy to flirt to chase. Or claim that rejection is way easier for a guy to accept and worse for a woman to deal with.
I'm in my head, but not about getting sex. When things go well, I'm hit with a paralyzing fear of commitment. I'm divorced from long ago and i can't shake the abuse. I can't be vulnerable with others or trust anyone. I am that guy, so I just keep my mouth shut. I live with family because I've been helping them while saving for my own place. I don't see myself as having a life to share with anyone.
Ultimately, if you have no self respect, then you're going to end up making the most of these "Faux pas" because… you don't respect yourself. I was talking to my one online friend about incels (particularly online ones) and how they consistently keep embarrassing themselves with women, and not changing their behavior, and one thing that I posited is that the men somehow internalize the rejection/humiliation as normal, and possibly reach a point where they're turned on by it. I'm by no means qualified to make that statement, it's just a theory.
The part about rejection goes both ways. I have NEVER had a woman take rejection in stride. Every single one overreacted and made a scene.
Interesting take!
Just be who you are to Be with a woman don't Go over Board
the what not to do stuff is all fine and well but most of it is just common sense, golden-rule sort of stuff. what to do is far more difficult to grapple with.
All of these types of videos popped up in the algorithm because of a supplement to help with some energy around gym time. I couldn't help but listen to a few random people on various sexual topics and…wow. Every one of these (the videos, not just this one) is what I considered common sense or learned in my early 20s. I'd like to say it's unbelievable that men are this clueless, but being single again in my 40s, I've found that women are every bit as awful. Any stereotype you think of about men can usually be applied to women as well.
I don't flirt. It feels artificial. I have been told by numerous people that I also don't notice when a women are flirting with me. I don't feel any stress about it.
The kind of men you’re talking to here…LOL. It’s unfortunate, but they exist. Most men won’t turn violent, though. This is a mostly invented fear.
With this chick talking, No wonder there is so much trouble between men and women. She is all about telling men what to do, what about talking what women do? Or need to do.
I love what you teach us. Seems so obvious after you teach it. Although ive always been pretty adept at meeting and getting along with women, as i age its not working like he used to. How can I overcome the offset of wrinkles and gray hair and still be attractive to women. I mean after all, I know Im still a stud, but I'm not ready to hang up my sex life just yet.
Works for guys only above 6 ft
I got a question I’m been single for awhile in I’m 34 years old how do I find girlfriend that love me
Caitlin's so pretty
Great too today !
Jesus just be normal…there’s plenty fishes out in the sea…believe in yourself…
1, 2 and 3 : you are doing things wrong and your behavior needs to change (which is generally the case)
4 and 5 : "just be yourself, it is the only way to go" (No, really, don't settle for being yourself, that might be bad)
The way it's framed is kinda contradictory and confusing, not very neurodivergent-friendly. If you're "being yourself" and you still do these things wrong, well you still have to change yourself then (i.e., get better). Part 1, literally says you need to change. Not "pretend" to be different; but, to actually be better.