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Stop being a nice guy (how to say no to women)
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I believed being a nice guy was and is what every lady wants in a guy & gentleman, and NOW they say it's the wrong thing to do. But with crying and going emotional on guys, and their friends backing her because of saying no does make it harder. Being in the early 50's and now saying "yeah you're a sucker" does hit in the balls. 😰
You're kind of like the cool worldly lady friend every guy doesn't know they need. You talk to men as equals, don't degrade or shame us, and provide intelligent insight. You have no idea how valuable it is to hear this without being talked down to and degraded. I just learned more from you in 10 minutes than I could of watching 10 of those "alpha' YouTube Dudes. Genuinely, thank you. Keep it up, the world needs more people like you.
i did this for my first gf(now ex) and i NEVER grew to resent her even tho she broke up with me due to my insecurities that she would leave me for someone better. which was part of the reason i tried to do everything to make her happy and say yes to her.
This 12 mins should be compulsory for all teenagers and men under 25
Hell, all men should be required to see it once a year
The woman in this story that catline is talking should have been dumped by our protagonist. She is clearly a princess who wants everything her own way.
Well I started saying no to women a long time ago, and they actually respect you for that. However I am nice, charming, happy, friendly. Though I will not stand for princess nonsense.
Poor simp at the sex club looking at his gf getting her back blown up poor simp
OK here’s a scenario: I think it’s common in a lot of couples, one time they go see the movie she wants to see, next time they go see the one he wants to see, and they alternate to do it for each other. Maybe that’s not the same thing you’re talking about though.
I mean, if you’re saying, you should absolutely never sit through something you’re not thrilled about for your partner, I don’t know that doesn’t sound like much of a relationship.
But there’s a lot of room between occasionally doing something you don’t feel up to, versus being a total pushover.
The part I struggle with is sometimes this kind of advice almost sounds like you’re saying to say no just to say no, even if you really have no problem doing it.
There are very few things in my life that are so important to me that I would blow off my wife to do it. Those things that are that important she respects me enough to know that they’re important to me, and I do the same in reverse for her.
Isn’t one of the points of being in a relationship that you actually do things for your partner? I guess the “get yourself flowers” comment did it for me. I mean if he’s got financial issues, that’s one thing, but otherwise is a man really being hurt by buying flowers for his girlfriend or wife?
I understand what you mean when you say how do you feel inside about it, but even that seems fuzzy.
This video is an odd one for me, because over the last 4 years, it's not that I relate to it, but that I saw it going on with my 2 (NOW-EX!) home care clients. They were an aging gay couple who'd been together for 40 years (longer than my parents!). But the longer I worked for them, the more I could see just how hellish their relationship really was. For one thing, BOTH of them turned out to be control-freak NARCISSISTS. (Truthfully, I never should have stuck with that assignment past the first 6 months.) The older guy was ALWAYS the one in charge, of everything, at all times. The other guy was what you call a "flying monkey" (or, as I like to say, "flunkie"). That guy did EVERYTHING– and I mean EVERYTHING– the older guy said, at every given moment. And they would argue a lot. It was NOT a healthy environment to be in, especially for me, since they always tended to put on false airs to everyone they knew… except me. In the end, 4 years of dedication to my job got NO appreciation, and when it ended– abruptly– they put in a complaint against ME.
Crazy enough, it was me saying "no" to a completely-unreasonable demand (coming in on my DAY OFF when I had a doctor's appointment) that led to the older guy BLOWING up at me and booting me off the case. Which should have happened 3-1/2 years earlier.
The only nice thing to come out of it at all was when a woman at my office told me that if SHE'd been in charge of the assignment, she would have gotten me a new client MUCH-earlier. Also, a friend who's also been studying NPD urged me to stand up for myself at the office, so if this kind of thing happens again, to INSIST they "swap me out" immediately. Narcissists are too dangerous to your mental & physical health, and in this case, your professional reputation and even YOUR JOB.
So true I've learned my lesson
I used to be a nice guy. I read the book not nice. They're really help me stand up for myself and my boundaries.
Tell them no at least 5 times a day.
The guy in this example wasn’t a nice guy, or playing at being a nice guy. He was playing the victim, wanting his significant others to feel sorry for him, rather than being attractive to them.
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Daaamn this is so on point for my life… But damn It really annoys me how women are sometimes attention, Time, Energy and money blackholes, you can not trust them to voluntarily stop taking more of us guys
Whether you just met them, or have been married to her for 20 years, they will always make you pay for being nice. Women loath men that are nice for no reason. They must earn that behavior. If they see you being nice for no reason, they will assume you are that nice to other girls. They will see you as a chump.
Great message!… the funny thing is that while listening to this video, I kept thinking of these issues but from a woman's perspective…
NO !
Didn't know where to put this but wanted to say your advice is great and on top of that your super cute/sexy
Should I open the door for my girlfriend every time we go somewhere
Such wonderful advice Caitlin and us women thank you 🙏
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Great video, you know I grew up without a father figure, and another brother that was far away from my age so I never had a real male figure in my life. And I have to figure out everything by myself. And it’s funny you talk about in this video about not retraining yourself. I once did that, and I’m gonna say that it is the worst feeling ever in your life and I would never do that again and you’re fantastic for mentioning to us in this video.
This was a very awesome video, Thank u so much Caitlin
This was definitely me you hit the nail on the head!
The slang word "simp" is very degrading to men. It's a disgusting, derogatory word and you shouldn't use it. Highly recommend you change the title of this video. You should be more inclusive.