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The Art of Ethical Seduction
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I showed that video to five women, and they all agreed that when a man comes to you and tells you that he wants to sleep with them, they are definitely creepy, and they just run.
Just be subtle and a little diplomatic. Flirt, make a joke, and be witty; it isn't that hard to communicate your intentions without being creepy. At the moment, you mention something that usually couples do or something like "Oh, then it's a date," and she does not shy away or correct you; you are actually out of the potential friend zone, and she agrees to continue to move with you in a romantic direction. This does not mean you will definitely end up together or sleep with each other, even though both understand at that moment that it is the desired outcome for both of them. You just communicated your intentions in a nonthreatening and non-creepy way, and she is down to participate. Now you two get to know each other, find out if you are compatible, and if you BOTH even want to continue in the long (or short) run. Do not put her on a pedestal. She has also to impress you.
That inside 30 seconds sounds pheromonal/hormonal.
Major histocompatibility complex, as well as all the usual phenotypic signals – age signals, asymmetric physical traits, and sometimes nonconscious comparison with past bad experiences from a similar type, NO trait excluded.
Is it really worth the bother?
Yeah, when you are a dude who looks and presents himself like me, you will never have success coming right out of the gate saying you intend to get her in bed.
I recently found out that I am often flirting with someone without even knowing it! Not always a great thing, since women (and some men apparently) gets the wrong idea and either shuts me down or suddenly offers themselves, when I was just really making conversation 😀
So basically dont hit on a woman and you wont be creepy
CAITLIN: "DISCONNECTION FROM REALITY"
LT. UHURA: "This isn't reality…This is fantasy."
— STAR TREK III: THE SEARCH FOR SPOCK [1984]
{Your comment reminded me of that movie quote.}
The image of the friends gathered around having a bottle of Champagne – 3 ladies, 4 dudes. Yeah, I'm the dude in the back without my own lady.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at a woman and thinking just ass and titties. You say state your intentions but yet when a man just wants good sex he’s now a dick… if it’s just sex both parties want then asking them philosophical questions is a one way ticket to attachment.
I think creepiness always stems from lack of a good mom figure growing up, or not having one at all due to divorce. It will increase as time goes on due to divorce rates and the falling apart of family lives in well developed countries.
All men are creepy unless they have a High Sexual Market value. A man must be tall, handsome, muscular, wealthy, and have social status. Women want to be intimate. But only if you have enough value in her eyes. She will make rules for the good guy. But will break rules for the asshole, bad boy guy. It's exciting and women get bored easily. If they aren't constantly stimulated, they will leave and look for that stimulation.
Trust me, I am not attractive at all. We all do not have that quality. Some are blessed with good looks which is God’s ice breaker. If you are good looking. It’s easy , men or women will approach you. It’s nature .
Who is genuinely interested in anyone when they meet at a bar . Boring
Yes, tell her upfront, I want to take you home, eventually. Works every time. This chick really is clueless. Not sure she is reading the right blogs. That’s where she gets her bullshit
It’s all about cash guys. If u r confident and have some cheddar in your pocket, dress nice, dating is easy. You’re welcome
May get violent and kidnap her because she said no?
Where does this chick live and where does she come up with this shit. If women really think like that and go through life so scared it’s sad really. But this chick here is clueless. If anyone actually pays her for advice or coaching , you’ve already lost.
Every woman on earth has been assaulted by a man. This woman is insane
You can feel that huh ?
i have always been told that asking open ended questions will spark more interest than giving yes or no answers.
Why is it that women could do whatever they want and it's not creepy but men can't do anything and they're still creepy there's never a negative connotation towards women why
LEGIT video
you sound like a life changer.
Women don't know what they want. Everything is based on emotions with women. My advice to guys, is to remain on your purpose. If the woman doesn't follow you, then move on to another one. The less you care, the more they'll love you. Stay true to yourself and reality.
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once again, the same trope: men have to do the hard work, women are women, so they can slack it.
All is ok, it's biology, it's up to the male pigeon to court and the female just receives, but jeez, why do we have in the west to be hypocritical and say that there's gender equality, why do we have to be in self denial, why
if there were gender equality, why shouldn't the girl get the burden to speak and the man, as Cait says, can finally relax and just listen? Ah, when it's about duties/boring things/dangerous things (etc), women are women and men are men. When it's about (pseudo) rights, women and men are "equal"
tsk. Here we are at it, again.
This disfunctional self-contradicting and toxic ideology (feminism), imposed by the western mainstream elites, is destroying romantic relations! It's an ethical flag of the west, tho i fear they bet on the losing horse
And do we wonder why guys resort to good psychologists like Cait to know how to talk to a goddamn girl? to check how to have sex? Everyday we do stray further from God. Rip
I wonder when one day Cait will address the elephant in the room and talk about feminism and the relation of it with modern day romantic relations and couple relations. Let's see her point of view
I'm just wondering if caitlyn's tips work on caitlyn (and not in a creepy way) 😅
Agreed. Bring nice but get to the point. Don't joke. State your intentions.
Thank u so much for this info
According to this Video, i am not creepy.
According to my Real-Life experiences, i am VERY Creepy. (And not even "when hitting on someone" but just to start with, when not interacting or when interacting with others)
Problem with that is that it destroys my confidence so much watching these type of dating advice videos. The conclusion more often than not is "Well, you are doing good, everything correct so far, no reason to disregard you". But then i still end up being Creepy and never getting any social validation (both in terms of dating and meeting new people). So the conclusion kind of has to be that it is My problem and it is unfixable.
Don't know where you're getting this filtering thought from, I've lost count of the amount of times Women have just come up to me and said the first creepy thing that's popped into their head.
It's almost as if Covid combined with social media gives these people the impression that they can say what the want!
Caitlin you look amazing in this video! Very sexy top.
Solid advice, thank YOU! Do you think radius of population density and that area’s status may alter some of the concepts and motivators you highlight? I’ve found that what women respond to as “acceptable” in male pursuit may, among other altering factors, be affected by the pace and rhythm of a certain area as it is shaped by population density and the area’s perceived level of importance. What do you think?
What specifically should I ask her about? What should I do if her response is to talk for hours about things which I have no interest in?
5:50 – That has resulted in me being rejected, including being called a creep & being slapped hard. It's never worked.
Pretend I don't want it? Or that it's not important to me? Or that I'm already getting plenty?
Why do many women reject men for very petty reasons, yet less often for major reasons? For example, she might reject him for being an inch too short or a couple of pounds too heavy, but him having several kids whom he couldn't care less about, doesn't pay child support for & never sees is no problem to her whatsoever.
its always the men being creepy lol don't approach they need to approach and pay for dates flip it back on them
Found myself in a situation about 2 months ago. First major gathering I attended since lockdown lifted not with family. Came across this smoking hot, short haired brunette. Couldn't take my eyes off her, to which she noticed. I eventually made my way to her and sparked up convo. Lead with how attractive she was, and how her blue outfit made her dark hair "pop". She was initially receptive, but as her friends began to hover back she started to lose some interest. Without a 2nd glance I tell her "it was nice chatting, I'll see you around"…and made my exit.
I pow-wow it up with some other folk I know, friends and associates…and there's these 2 ladies among them who were kinda competing for my attention. They're hanging on my arm. Laughing at my jokes. Doing all of the things a lady does when she's trying to shoot her shot. Short haired brunette sees this from a distance and within minutes of doing so, she separates from her group and comes to interact with me. My female associates eventually concede defeat, and short hair has my attention. I pretty much grill her for the next 20 minutes. I ask her about her friends. How much they influence her. What she does for a living. Just zero in her. I give her space to ask her own questions, but I keep the magnifying glass on her, and I can see clearly she's getting turned on by it. This confirmed when she outright tells me she's never been with a guy so direct. How usually guys turn out to be either too soft or too over the top.
Long story short, I smashed like the Hulk, and we're still FWB status. As I'm older (41) and divorced I'm not looking to be tied to a ball & chain again, but having a 28 y/o sex starved hottie at one's beckon call is never a bad thing.
Asking questions is boring. For the girl. That's my experience.