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The Unspoken Fear Holding Back Men…
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44 Comments
Lady I only fear one thing .that's my ex getting the other half of my pay check
I Love Your Advise!!! Thankyou!!
Sometimes you just need to be reminded that you are king.
Caitlin, do you mind doing a topic on asexuality & allosexual relationships? Thank you
Do I need to worry if I have an orgasm without ejaculating?
I don't fear rejection, I fear excessive and never-ending rejection because that was my experience.
Crushes helps me. Chemistry
snake clowns?
Yep!
I’ve been rejected by women my entire life. Can’t say I blame them though. I also deal with a lot of health issues. I’m doing all I can to make peace with the fact that my sex life is over for good.
Was it the big black nag face replacingthe man in the video?
It's easy – Clean carnivore diet. Cut out all seed oils, sugars, carbs, processed products and oxalates. Just eat fatty red meat and all erectile problems vanish.
it's 100% diet.
Sadly ive come to the realization that my wife of almost 20 years was never really attracted to me. Thats not to say there isn't love. There is.
In a deep, best friend, way.
But physically… nada. From her.
Needless to say I gave up trying to be intimate. Its hard to get hard when you know you arent actually wanted.
Now im trapped between being an honorable man….and well, a man
I have never heard of coc.k rejection
It is rare that I find myself in the 1% of anything, but here we are. I am not afraid of rejection, I am afraid of betrayal. Sounds strange huh? Well, I've grown up being ridiculed, bullied, put down, neglected, and emotionally abused by people that I've let get close to me. People that I gave my trust.
Growing into much improved appeal mid life, in comparison to the rest of my generational males (not letting myself become worn old trying to serve the slave trap of unreasonable women), I have discovered priceless satisfaction in being the one to say -"No !"
Human symbiotics has been majorely broken by victimhood idealisms. It needs to be revised and repaired. The old ways worked but had its flaws. Respecting nature´s realities is a good place to start.
Sigmund Fraud was nothing short of a vulgar P-do legislator. He was "onto" something in his Oedipus thesis but his vulgar and tasteless nature utterly destroyed any reflective reality of it.
Fact is;
Human seeks security in familiar ground! If you grew up in a good family with good role models, you tend to attract to bondmates similar to your parental opposite sex. So is also the case if you grew up in a hellhole of a family like mine. It took me a long time to understand why my heart only fired up for psychopathic female trash. Be aware of how you yourself tick and shape choice to your own way of life, look for suitable healthy motherhood materials as nature intended instead of following your "falling in love" feeblenesses. If you come from a similar place like me do not follow your heart, rather listen to your mind. Though MY mind tells me the "female condition" is one of only various grades of selfish insanity and statistics have a nasty tendency to confirm it, I have yet not given up the hope of one day finding a good woman to complete me. For that is what the symbiotics is all about, it takes both ways.
Moral, ethics, karma and respect is the lubes of good life.
It takes will, understanding and reasonable leniency of 2 to make it work well.
See, you don't know you're even doing it : "500,000 words, to get your point across". Eneogh to deflate any balloon.
If you're that afraid of woman rejecting you WHILE you're about to do the nasty then it aint going to work. It sounds like this woman is very difficult, unreasonable, bitchy etc. it's a losing battle you're not going to make her happy, she probably don't even like sex if she's giving off these vibes. Rather I'd expect her to be really into it, should be all wet and making out intensely and such, not some cold fish lying there motionless making you do all the work. Don't waste time with these types. Don't need to overthink.
I am 47 don't have this problem unless I am totally wasted, even then I can still muster something. Mainly don't be obese and smoke and shouldn't be an issue for 95% of men.
GOD FORGOT TO GIVE WOMEN A SEX DRIVE.
I lost my manhood after my stroke
I fear getting smaller as I get older. I'm well endowed and hope it don't. 😊. Ladies love it. 😊
A hard balance to have as rejection is a legit fear to have, healthy even as it's like a built in radar we all use to navigate society.
What's the deal with this The Growth Matrix program that promises a bigger penis in 12 weeks and the adult industry go to program? Any real reviews?
Caitlin… the Unspoken Fear Holding Back Men (or this man) is that I might never get a chance to rub your head. .
Size, size, and oh ya size. I can't help but think before, after, and during of how insignificant the penis is for women. I can't help but think that penetration is just a treat for doing a good job during foreplay or for the gift you bought. It affects performance on my side. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy whatever I get, but I can't help the feeling isn't mutual. Unfortunately, I believe size is the issue. I am average as it comes, but have been in the room with large ones, and there is a obvious difference in a women reaction to penetration. Not saying I want a girl to feel like giving birth, but it would be nice to feel like what I have is "craved", I can't really think of a good word to express it. But it would be nice to have a woman that want the "D" as much as the foreplay. At least that's the way I have always pictured it when I was young. 😢
I actually do think this needs to be talked about more. There’s the perception that men are purely visual and as soon as they see a naked body they can maintain an erection. However, I do think people underestimate how much a man’s psychological state has to do with a man ability to hold an erection.
It took me a whole 25 year marriage to realise anxiety was the problem to my premature ejaculation and occasional non erectile performance.
At the age of 45 I discovered a completely new experience within a new relationship, supported with the confidence of the little blue pills.
Knowing I would have what was needed, gave me the confidence to play it all at the speed I was confidence with, and from there I could play the whole game to win. I have done ever since.
Such a pity no one was able to advise us. We did a some great time in our first marriage, at times it was wonderful, but unfortunately not to last.
What you advise is true, and the advice is right. The ability to utilise it helps with the outside help of little pills, as and when, can help to start to change things.
I'm with a new partner and a real fear I have is fracturing my member. She's a larger person and when she grinds I get really freaking nervous. I have to stop her. It's very embarrassing.
Is there a way I can message you directly to ask you for your help with something?
Yep. This. My whole life… Thanks, Caitlin!
Ladies. Stop talking to us in bed. I'm trying to hold wood. That part that understands and processes a reply is being suppressed. I'm thinking about your sister in all honesty.
Alternatively, sublimate your fustration and become a Great Red Dragon, which only the worthy may behold.
Thank you for sharing
Anxiety is my issue, when I feel a lack of importance or value in social settings including the work place is very draining.
Reason for ED; mechanical aortic and mytrol valves. Cure for ED; Eddie by Giddy. Works 100% of the time.
Never ask a woman where she wants to go. Tell her where you're taking her.
Thing is Caitlin it's alright for you to say don't worry about being rejected by women when your a woman specially if generally an attractive one as most guys won't reject you!!.. if you women were guys you wouldn't be able to survive! 😂. Nature or in other words that bitch "Mother Nature"! Has screwed guys over!… but also as stated life is shite for all just like the Buddha said life is suffering!!…. no one should have kids really, none of us should be here in this horrible world/life! It is just suffering….
How do I message you about an issue I'm not quite ready to share with everyone here? I'm really struggling.
I have issues continuing to stay engaged in sex. Im extremely good at getting my partner off, but once they do I can’t get there, I have ADD and am recovering from pornography addiction.
Im struggling with staying engaged once my partner gets off, and I’m getting really frustrated. I don’t know what to do anymore
Beautiful!
Agreed!
After about a year of excuses and disappointment from my wife, I just quit trying and find it elsewhere.
I don’t fear rejection, I’m married. I have been rejected by my wife more than I have ever been rejected when I was single. She likes me to massage her back, it helps her to relax and get in the mood; I have massaged her back and she fell asleep on me 3 nights in a row. So I don’t even try, I figure she’s most likely not in love with me. That’s fine, I just do what I want, besides when she told me that I was “fine” as far as sex goes, she’s been with other guys before we got together, I hadn’t been with anyone when we got together. So I also figured that she is comparing me with the other guys, and I’m just not “good” so she doesn’t want to be with me. Oh well, crap happens.
Great Video Caitlin!