Caitlin V., MPH, Resident Sexologist at Royal, is a sex and relationship coach who helps people gain confidence, satisfaction, and deep transformation both inside and outside the bedroom.Visit for more full content www.caitlinvneal.com
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This makes you unattractive to women 🤦♀️(how to tell and what to do about it)
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47 Comments
Wish I had heard this 20 years ago…
I don't do any kind of relationship I avoid all relationships I don't need human relationships the human life is pointless and meaningless
Guys stay single and be safe…believe me…
These don't be clingy advises often sound to me like: you're not allowed to fully and deeply love someone, but if you do don't show it. And god forbid you expect your partner to reflect any of these feelings. Do relationships really to have look like roommates who share one bank account and bed?
I mean if I have to choose to go drink with a friend or spend the time with my girl, which I could not see for a few days because we work etc. of coarse I choose her. Or in any other hobby example, that I know I can do at any other point. Is that bad?
Is it bad that I would like to hear "I love you" at least once a week, when I tell her that almost daily?
Or the woman can’t handle a healthy relationship. There’s that too. More often tgg if an not it’s not the guy being “clingy” it’s the woman being emotionally incompetent
And when its the other way around it's actually ok, because ofc men should not care and its the prime reason women fell for "bad boys". …
Thank you so much for this video I've learned so much that I will use to Improve my relationship
Relationships are impossible
+caitlinvictoriousx As of 6 February 2024 I'm not in a romantic involvement.
I think she is amazing in bed 🙂
The one who loves the least has the control. It's not about not loving that person, it's about acting as if that person isn't "the love of your life." It's all games and stupid, but it is what it is
How about nobody's a prize?
Moral of the story, women live in a different universe. Expectations are beyond normal. They want what they can’t have, and when they have what they want it’s not good enough? And they need to be wowed for being simply a women with a pulse lol stop trying men, apparently it works. Do what works for you and only give them attention when it’s convenient?
I hate peoples who don’t respond within a reasonable time, again I won’t tolerate games at all
Too many games
That’s why I don’t date
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Let's not take the abundance mindset to extreme here. If one person were as good as another, there would be no toxic people. You are not attracted to everyone, so those you are attracted to are clearly in a different category. The idea that such people are super abundant is just wishful thinking
"Invest in yourself" what the hell does that mean in real terms?
Please help me. I'm about to call it a day after a few years
We are in bed. Foreplay is amazing and for hours. I try to insert and she says it is paining inside at her hymen. I cant even get into the vagina. It's usually blocked. I use my fingers and get to the hymen and she starts screaming. It's years and no sex. I've tried lube, ive tried slowing widening her vagina but nothing. Years without sex. I can't do this anymore
👍🏻
A girl recently came into my life and began to treat me better than any female in my life ever did (outside of my mom and extremely close cousins). My mind went "clingy" so fast, I had to deliberately force that feeling down. The more we interacted, she kept being empathetic towards me. It was a struggle. She definitely has "wife vibes" by the way she carries herself and how warm, amiable and agreeable she is. I'm trying hard to play my cards right.
Came for the nice tits n stayed for the decent advice 😂
So basically whatever you do, don't fall in love! If you fall in love you're going to keep your schedule open to her, loose your self in her, ignore her inperfections. Great advice. Lets all go through life and with the guard up and play games
When we look through the rose-tinted glasses of love all red flags just look like flags
Yes to all…
Yea the only relationship I have like that is with the dog. And damn right I cling to her. It's all a joke, everyone dies alone.
Great video Caitlin. This is exactly why I'm scared to get into a relationship because having grown up in a dysfunctional environment and not feeling loved, my need to be liked by the other person makes relationships difficult. I have decided to remain single and focus on me and if someone comes along that is right I may entertain a relationship again. But I'm quite content being alone.
Really very useful video ❤
Mam can y advise steps to improve my libido
Hard to pay attention when your wearing a shirt like that. I didn’t hear a word you said. 😅
Nothing in the beginning of this video sounds respectable to me so far! First of all, don’t be clingy! But after that, if your energy changes and you do anything other than tell the other person to F off, you aren’t the prize either and you’d probably side skirt like that further down a relationship with something more important. That whole I’m too busy thing to hang out is for the birds, say what you really think and feel so it can be accepted and weighed appropriately!
I'm 42, never been in love because I've always thought I've got nothing to offer so i just try and make her happy, now that's a red flag. I'm screwed.
Power games
@11:11
Not very convincing anymore. I'm waiting for that person for decades … and no one even wants to pretend to.
What about NERDY and NEEDY ?A double whammy😄🇨🇦
You always have this option that we can come when we want. I have never had an opportunity to tell you when I want!🥰😋😘😉
Excellent advice all around, BUT not universal. I have a girlfriend who is SUPER clingy, and I've had to set boundaries to ensure I have enough time in the week to get the things done I need to. HOWEVEr, she is also someone who goes out of her way to do things for me that are the most thoughtful things of any woman I've ever dated, so she's definitebly a prize. So her clinginess is totally worth it for as far into the future as I can imagine. In fact, I would go as far as to say that she's the only person in my decades of dating that appears to love me as much as I love her, which is shown from her actions rather than just words. Hell, she even puts up with parts of my life that to some women would be major red flags that are understandable, even though it's true that I'm incredibly romantic and a patient and thoughtful yet adventurous lover who has ambitions and travel experience, etc.
Just what I needed.
This is where I am, they can smell the desperation a mile away. I haven't had a lover in years and I don't know how to fix it. I only managed to pull like 2 or 3 dates all of last year and they went nowhere. You keep saying self-love like it's some magic bullet but I just don't understand it.
Caitlin you have a nice rack ❤
I am loving the magical kitchen!! My trouble is this one woman in my life who happens to be an amazing chef 😀 Totally find myself being as you described even though I know better….
Your advice in this video is spot on. It took me a long time to learn these lessons on my own. I went through a toxic relationship in college and then a string of short poor relationships afterwards. Then one day I met a woman who was like no one else in my life. She was sweet, kind, fun, full of life, and shared a lot of my interests. But she had just gotten out of a very bad relationship herself and didn't want to get into a serious relationship. I had heard the "You're a great guy, but I just want to be friends," speech so much that my typical response would have been to say "okay" and not call her again. But I LIKED this woman so much, that I needed to have her in my life, even as just a friend. So that was what I focused on. Just being her friend. We were engaged less than a year later and have been married for over 25 years. My point is when I stopped chasing lovers and just focused on friendships, love found a way to be part of my life.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🚨 Signs of Clinginess in Dating
– Clinginess can quickly turn off a partner.
– Signs discussed: keeping your schedule open, constantly seeking validation, losing yourself in the relationship, ignoring red flags, and lowering your standards.
02:25 📅 Keeping Your Schedule Open
– Keeping an open calendar for someone can send clingy energy.
– Prioritizing the person you're dating over other aspects of your life can create an imbalance.
03:21 🔄 Constantly Seeking Validation
– Excessive validation-seeking behavior can be perceived as clingy.
– Checking in excessively or seeking constant verbal confirmation can create an unhealthy dynamic.
04:20 🔄 Losing Yourself in the Relationship
– If thoughts about your partner dominate your mind, it may indicate clinginess.
– Neglecting friends, hobbies, and activities can suffocate the relationship dynamic.
05:15 🚩 Ignoring Red Flags
– Ignoring signs of misalignment or incompatibility can lead to clingy behavior.
– Placing someone on a pedestal and overlooking red flags creates an unrealistic relationship fantasy.
06:10 📉 Lowering Your Standards
– Allowing unacceptable behavior due to a fear of losing the person is a form of clinginess.
– Communicating that you can't stand up for yourself energetically feels suffocating to the partner.
07:08 🍕 Analogy: Magical Kitchen and Self-Love
– The analogy of having a magical kitchen represents one's potential for self-love.
– Clinginess often stems from a lack of self-worth; building internal self-love is essential for a healthier dynamic.
09:03 🔄 Focus on Self-Growth
– Building a fulfilling life outside the relationship is attractive.
– Changing clingy behavior should be driven by self-improvement, not just to appear more attractive.
10:03 🔄 Recognizing Unhealthy Dynamics
– Clinging to prove oneself or fill emotional gaps can lead to unhealthy dynamics.
– Secure relationships don't require clinginess; finding someone who values you is crucial.
11:31 🔄 Closing Thoughts: Building a Support System
– Healthy relationships involve mutual effort.
– A supportive partner makes you feel valued without the need for clinginess.
It's really helpful. I've been in a relationship like this before. It's clear that the other person can go up to 9 days without replying to me, but I'm unilaterally persistent. Now that my mind has stabilized, the next concern is, how to properly claim back the bills I paid in this unbalanced relationship to rebalance it? Or forget it?
Brilliant advice 👍
So what Catlin is really saying is; don't be stressin these hoes (laughter and applause)…
Thank you for this !!! 💙☮️
Thank you Caitlin. I needed this advise right now. Lately I've caught myself being this way with a girl that I know there is no future with. She's beautiful, fun to be with, but way younger than me. And even tho we have our moments, I know it's not real. I sometimes find it hard to say no to her, and I need this slap in the face to remember that this isn't who I am. We all need to look out for number one, and avoid those who look at us as someone who is just there for them