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Top 7 Things Women Notice FIRST in Men (Best Pickup Advice for Men)
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Caitlin, I want to say that You are a Genius; your advice is very on point, I’m glad that I came across your YouTube channel! I thank you! 🙏
Women like to feel secure. That you will stand up for them as well as stand up to them. They want to feel like you create a protective space around them in which they can play and flirt and relax and bend some social rules. In order to be able to create that protective space, you have to be someone that other men and other women respect and will take into account. It could also be a physical space such as your house or your bar or your club or even your car. You have to know what to do and how to behave in whatever space it is. If you are where you belong and you know it, you will manifest signs of confidence like standing up straight and taking up space and confidently leading and advising and connecting with people in the space. Confidence is knowing what to do plus a lack of fear or anxiety while doing it. (The "alpha" male knows how to handle people. The "sigma" male knows how to build and fix shit. He knows how the world works at a detailed level. Just make sure you're one of those, yeah? But it doesn't hurt to try both. Just don't be a video-gaming porn addict scrolling, really.)
Women are using confidence as a proxy for your social position because, when low-status men act confident, someone usually smacks them down, because no one is protecting them and they can't fight back. Over time these men are suppressed and excluded and they develop an anxiety, a virtual bully in their own mind, telling them not take up space, not to stand out, because then they might face punishment or ridicule. So, if you are confident now, women interpret that as evidence that you've been high-status for long enough to not experience that treatment. And this in turn means you can protect them and their offspring, so that is sexy. You can just cheat and act confident even when you're not. If you're good enough at it, it will fool some women and they will have sex with you. This is the essence of pickup in my opinion as opposed to broader self-improvement strategies. A big part of attraction is also just pre-selection. If you already have lots of options with women, then other women notice that. That's why Caitlin says "sexuality is a part of who you are" — in my opinion that means you live in abundance, you have options, it hasn't been 18 months. Crude, but that's what I think. The rich get richer.
Once you've created the protective space, and women say they feel calm or secure around you, then you can engage with the woman herself. Then you have the freedom to explore and joke and connect and play with her. That's when you get to learn her mind, trade histories, compare values, and trade insights on how to navigate this world. That's when you get to learn her vulnerabilities and share your own, share your reactions to things, learn and teach. This is the stage of the interaction where it's important that you be present with her, be authentically yourself, and don't be stupid. This is the stage of the interaction where it will become clear if you resent women and do not actually like them. If you think they owe you something or if you have some other axe to grind. This shit will just come right out and there's nothing you can do about it unless you dealt with it beforehand. This is the step where it becomes obvious whether you're emotionally available or not. Can you hear the woman? Can you understand simultaneously that the woman is a woman with generic needs that all women have from all men, but also that she is an individual human being who you need to get to know in order to have a good relationship?
If you get to this stage, you like what you're hearing from her and satisfy yourself that she's someone you want in your life– she's useful, she's supportive, she's interesting, she's aligned with what you want in life — then you should try to fuck her brains out. At that point that's your chance to really take your time, set aside a few days on a trip or a visit, and enjoy the process but also guarantee that she does orgasm, a lot. If you do this, then you have yourself a woman.
At this point, you need to avoid the poison drip: don't allow her desire for you to consume you to the extent that you can no longer maintain the man she was attracted to in the first place. You need to weather the storm of no longer having new relationship energy. This is pretty much impossible so you'll probably break up. But hey, at least you tried.
"She doesn't care if you have a lemon-yellow Lamborghini. She doesn't care about your six-figure job or how well you can shred a Telecaster. So what DOES she care about?" She cares about wheter those two things could be under her control 😀
Speaking about confidence in general: I think people are mistaken about something.
Attractive men are confident, but they’re not attractive because they’re confident, they’re confident because they’re attractive.
Doesn’t have to be physical, but they’re confident because they already know something about themselves, whether it’s their looks or they’re humor, or whatever. So if you’re lacking confidence from the start, you can’t really fake that, and you do it’s not gonna work. Being fake is something women can spot from a mile away. I’d argue fake confidence is worse than lacking confidence.
Woah, I'm gonna have to find the spot on my wife's arm.
It just feels like none of this stuff really matters much if you look like Danny DeVito.
did you get that guy at the end? Great content BTW!!!
Stevie:"he was the love of my life"
Joe :" I was inI love with her like a sister"
Ouch 😟
Outstanding content! My compliments! You rock! Thank you!
Finally an explanation from an intuitive perspective (she’s probably an ENFP).
This has made way more sense than other videos
So, basically I need to be everything that I'm not, lol.
It depends on what you both want and if you have already been with the person then it is not a good idea to change. I am 75years old and have have found out that women like bedroom just as much as me . I have been interested in what they expect and their dreams of pleasure. Force them when they want dominance, gentle when called for. The best is a little of each. Every woman likes certain things and each one is different. Those differences are a good thing to remember.
A new woman you as quickly as you can find something in common and how you met. In a bar she is probably looking for what you are there for. Investigate and evaluate as quickly as possible with a upbeat attitude and as playful as possible. On a secluded beach and she approached you then you are both lonely and lonely loves company. If she leads you follow and if you lead make her smile or something happy-go-lucky. Use your own you and bring her in or give her slack if the bond is there
Best pick up is I eat ass. Can I get your number. 90% of the time it works all the time. Lol.
Female noses are somehow better..yea not buying that lol
Caitlin, I have to say I think this was the BEST video you have ever made!
Why even try
Women don't want ugly men
Posture, clothing, sexual-ness… I’m smoked…
The seven things Vegas girls like in a man are. A Rolex Watch , His Ferrari , ,Bank acvount , pension , 401k plan , His 18k gold rings , $100 dinnet plates at restaurants . 😄😄
You are a smart lady who is very good with communication, I appreciate this about you…thx
I’ve been called a ladies man by a lady. Very flattering. I just want happiness and women to feel secure and noticed. That’s what most women want. To feel noticed ❤
Caitlin you're so sweet and cute I love you keep up the good work it really works 100percent have a great week andweekend