Caitlin V., MPH, Resident Sexologist at Royal, is a sex and relationship coach who helps people gain confidence, satisfaction, and deep transformation both inside and outside the bedroom.Visit for more full content www.caitlinvneal.com
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fake person, dying inside..
Too much trouble. I'll just leave things the way they are. Ain't nobody got time for that.
I love the bit about shame around minute 7. But if your partner isn't doing anything to work on their shame, things will never change. It takes 2 people to make this succesful and if they don't even try, give up before it's too late and move on with someone you are compatible with. Unless you're ok with a completely sexeless marriage. I had to try really hard to be ok with that and have found that separate bedrooms and zero intimacy is much better for my mental health than the drips I got. If she has needs, she has never expressed them so I assume she is fine. If she's not, it's not my problem anymore, I did all I could.
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Soooo let my girl fuck my boss 😭😭😭😂😂
Honestly, I would only go to a certain point in that situation. Deep inherited shame needs therapy. A partner can not be your therapist. Therapy needs distance, partnership needs intimacy. Both are not possible at the same time. They can assist you on the journey, but you have to walk on your own and do the work to overcome it. Facing it in therapy and meditation. Believe me, I tried it for three years.
My ex gf never manged to overcome her inherited shame and never managed to orgasm because of it. She was just too afraid to do anything about it. She wanted me to "fix" her (her words), but I was not her therapist. Yes, I can help her. Can take the stress away. But it broke my heart to see her suffer and cry. But at the same time, she was refusing to do anything about it. I didn't know what to do anymore. The origin of her shame had not just influenced her sex life. It was her whole life, but she was too afraid to do anything about it. For example, we bought OMGyes and she never watched it. We wanted to watch together, and she never wanted tot do it.
She even wanted to experience with women and I let her, but she wanted me to find one. And I even managed to do that, but then she was again too afraid and said I was demanding it from her. I agreed to open the relationship for her, I found her a woman, after she asked me to do it (which was weird). Nothing happened, because she was once again too afraid. Then she was happy as she gt rid of her, but was already planning that I find her another.
There is only so much I can do.
Not just that. As she realized she couldn't overcome her shame, she began shaming me for my sexual needs (pure vanilla). That was the last straw for me.
Seriously?
It ended shortly after it.
You’re funny 😂 my wife is so vanilla she’s makes vanilla look like chocolate. I’ve tired everything and truly thought I could change her but after 29 years of marriage I give up trying. There was a point where she did try some but now there’s no effort on her part
I like your videos , they have helped me a lot. Not new information to me but great coaching. Sexuality is ok….. adultery is definitely not. I will not do it to her nor will I ever accept it done to me.
I have watched at least a dozen of your videos. She is 40 and menopausing. She was always more sexual than even I was and now it’s the opposite! I feel like I have already done everything you have said but she still doesn’t care to do it. She says she does it for me! She literally has multiple orgasms and is happy when she experiences it but how the hell do I get a 40 year old woman who is menopausing to want sex more than once every 10-14 days? I miss having it 3-4 times a week! Watched tons of videos and read tons of blogs… but nothing helps. She’s even on hormone therapy because she wants to get in the mood so it’s not her fault, what can help this kinda situation?! Tried EVERYTHING you have mentioned especially making her feel safe and not rushed. She cums at least 3-5 times every time so I know I’m doing things right what am I not doing?
Caitlin, your videos are incredible, but mainly because you are such a great presenter! Do you have openings or offer private coaching for couples?
Not complicated at all….😂😂😂
Yeah I mean, if my girlfriend secretly wants to bang my boss, it's probably just time for a new girlfriend lol.
Also sounds like the man is constantly having to put in all the work in these videos. Maybe just time to find a girlfriend who makes life easier instead of harder.
So screw monogamous fidelity then…
Ha, she aint got one.
Are post menopausal women capable of getting freaky or even horny at all?
What of she just isn't interested in "it" anymore? I've tried it all and the only reason I get is "I just don't want." We plan on having another child, at that point she is on it like smoke on a fire. However, it makes me feel like I'm used to make a child. She has no interest, I'm high sex drive and she knew that when we met. She was adequately interested until our first child, now has no interest unless we are going for another child. Yes, she's talked with doctors and we have communicated, but its gone to the typical (once married, it all ends). I/we need help!?
A good strong relationship with open and honest communication goes a long way. We spend a lot of time just talking and holding each other. Accepting each other for who we are is a big part too. We both have always enjoyed sex, but the longer we are together, the more she is starting to experiment with things she says she NEVER would have tried before – both things she wants for herself and things I would like.
Caitlin, your videos are terrific! What I like best about them is YOU–your presentation, your personality, your upbeat energy. I don't think anyone who has an issue in their life can watch one of your videos and not come away feeling better and more hopeful about tackling the problem. Thanks so much!
Really wish this was true.
Been married 27 years, both in our mid/late 40s. Went through about 15 of those getting turned down for sex to the point that i simply stopped asking or attempting to initiate. When she noticed, a tearful conversion ensued where it was made known that i cant stop initiating becaise she needs to know i still want her. Things did eventually get better, i opened up about things i like that she didnt know about and it really had an impact on how close she fealt to me and she, for the first time, told me something that she wanted to try (ANR) which i loved but also put me in the position where i had to be the one to approach her for it, if i liked it or wanted it, it was always supposed to be me who initiated. Other than the first time she rarely, initiated, and she didn't really want to do her part to keep it going while i was away from her during the day, things were great for about a year but as nothing lasts forever, this didnt either.
But throughout it she has always insisted that she doesn't have any things, any "hey i really like this" she seems to love me telling her what i like but doesn't want to participate or try those things because "its just not her thing" or its a hard no because it triggers her ick factor. But theres no reciprocity.
Shes gone out of her way to find lots of examples of how other relationships of random people match ours in that the women have a lower need or desire for sex and we "have it more than a lot of people" which means shes the "normal" one and i'm not. So, basically, im not suposed to overly upset about my circumstances because its not that bad.
Feels hopeless, and she would say im doing nothing but shouting into void by commenting here. And i suppose she's not really wrong about that.
Fuck.
Pretty sure about 75% of women are “meh-sexual”.
Why. Mixxed vids all the time??
I let her be her and never shy away from what she wants. We have conversations about our wants and needs. Getting her to feel comfortable to be outgoing and freaky has helped her to be her.
Can we get a video breaking down the 5 erotic blueprints?!?! (Maybe its listed in the desc box)?!
My wife has a stressful job which means she's always thinking about work. Which makes our time suffer. the only thing I've ever found that gives both us great sex is booze! After a few mix drinks and a few shots its game on. That's the only thing to turn off the noise in her head.
I'll keep my experienced opinion to myself. Good luck with all that.
I love your videos Caitlin, very informative. However, when it comes to relationships, the number one word in it should be communication. Everything starts with communication. Talk about likes and dislikes and set boundaries. From there everything should be cool, in most cases. 🙂
Very interesting, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow… I just go'ogled the latest in Mario’s Thunderous Erections, it's so much easier and potent now!