Caitlin V., MPH, Resident Sexologist at Royal, is a sex and relationship coach who helps people gain confidence, satisfaction, and deep transformation both inside and outside the bedroom.Visit for more full content www.caitlinvneal.com
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Why thinking about sex makes you a better person..
Last longer in bed, have more sex in your relationship, become an amazing lover. Watch Caitlin V as she shares sex tips, relationship advice, and personal insights here on YouTube.
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But yet it's only men that do it wrong. Not women. Women do it right all the time
You said with the start with the letter d, why not start with the letter? P
Why is it okay for women to fantasize about having sex with specific man but it's wrong for men but yet it's women if women have masturbation it's positive but if men masturbate it's negative
Just thinking about sex or doing it? Because these are two completely different things!
Caitlin is really onto something here. I certainly can’t speak to all of the psychological manifestations that she mentioned in this video, but I think her references to the existential impact of the physical connection is absolutely profound. As someone who has explored sexuality for the better part of half a century, I can attest to the critically essential role that Sex plays in mental wellness and experiential happiness of the human experience.
I grew up in the quintessential Midwestern Puritanical household, where Sex was never mentioned. So I never received any guidance or insight into sexuality – positive or negative – leaving me to self educate in a way that wasn’t necessarily optimal. But the silence on the subject did send one rather crippling conclusion in my young mind, and that was that sex was not something you talked about. My interpretation of that fact was that if it’s not something to be talked about, it must be shameful at best, or outright sinful at worst.
It took me years, even decades, to realize that that misguided assumption deprived me of one of the greatest sources of joy, fulfillment, and human connection. Driven by what was, admittedly, a high libido, I did think about sex numerous times every day. But what started as purely physical lust, gave away to an intellectual curiosity about why it was such a powerful force in my consciousness. After years of inquiry, I discovered an inalienable reality that was always there, but masked by my own Puritanical upbringing and ever-present societal shaming around the subject. The fact?: that Sex is as fundamental to the human experience, as every other fundamental need essential for not only health, but even survival. Just as much as the need for food, shelter, safety, and human connection. It should be listed right there on the same level of Maslow hierarchy of essential needs for life.
For me sex and its inherent intimacy with another human being, is the gateway that allows us to connect with the Lifeforce. That is the ribbon of energy that runs through all of human existence. It lies at the very Marrow of our desire for meaning and fulfillment in life. It lies near the epicenter that gives meaning to our lives. And is exactly the same drive that we have to sustain ourselves as human beings — just like hunger for food, need for safety and shelter, and our souls desire for connection.
Sex is a conduit for all of those things and as such, is maybe the greatest gift nature has granted us as a species. I’m not sure if it is the sole lens through which we live our lives, or that it defines who we are, in all aspects of our lives, – I leave that to the psychologically more sophisticated like Caitlin – but I firmly believe that it is the tint on that lens that enhances the clarity and color of virtually all our experiences.
Given it’s profound influence and fundamentally critical function, it baffles me, and, frankly, saddens me, that our society, and so many of the people who live in it, are deprived of one of life’s most nurturing and life-fulfilling gifts. Maybe more than anytime in our past, we are in desperate need of the positive Life, affirming, influence sex and intimacy could, and should have in the lives of every human being.
I look out on the sea of sex starved, disengaged people who are living lives of quiet desperation and have to ask why? And the answer comes back to me as a cruel and tragic irony: that it doesn’t actually HAVE to be that way. The societal attitudes that shame individual’s sexual selves into a twisted mockery of what nature intended is one of the greatest sorrows of all of human human history. To shame and deny our sexual nature and desire, is the equivalent of shaming people for having hunger and the desire to eat. Or desiring the companionship of fellow human beings.
I apologize for all the existential rhetoric, but I truly believe that the completely unnecessary and antiquated constrictions we’ve placed on our sexual souls is an abomination against nature and a form of self loathing that is an affront to our own rational minds and sanity. I Think it’s time for a new sexual revolution. We need more Caitlin’s to hoist the banner of TRUE sexual freedom and human fulfillment. P.S. I wish Caitlin would do more commentary that touches on this slightly more ethereal “big picture” aspects of sexuality and societal attitudes that hobble our humanity as sexual being. This was a spectacular step in that direction.
Well I must be the greatest person in the world
Imagine doing a drinking game and taking a shot every time Caitlyn says the word "SEX" That would be a game I would definitely say no to
Wow thank you
I think about sex right now. My wife thinks I want it or I’m thinking about it too much. I can’t help it when I’m runner.
I’m always fantasizing about her! About the exciting things’ places we’ve been close! In our pool in our room at the poconos
I have a job where I work alone and have tons of down time. I think about sex all day when me or my mind is not busy. I then get irritated or frustrated about it and I'm in a horrible mood the rest of the day. I have an addictive personality and have issues with self control. I don't want to overwhelm my partner with sex every 2 or 3 days. It festers and the cycle continues.
Thought a lot about it …. didn't get to act on it much. So it's a glass half filled. (ahh, optimism!) 😉
The song lyrics you quoted in this video are tattooed on my shoulders. 😀
No is not, actually makes you a horrible creep
Love your dress Caitlin!
Love Your Content Madam and Love That Shirt. 👍🎨👙❤️🔥
100% agree. Thanks for your content. I proud of you. You're breaking lot of taboos that must be broken
Could you please make a video about c_0c_k rings and how to properly use them? Thanks
Love that psychedelic top. Great insights.
No better confidence builder. And our relationship is so deep and beautiful.
Adidas !
"sound-dampening pads on the walls" 😆😅😂🤣
I could use that in my neighborhood… because too many "neighbors" have NO consideration for other people. Blasting stereos, loud vehicles with faulty exaust systems, HUGE LOUD DOGS that nobody should own in a city who get left outdoors and can bark for hours at a time… 😠😡
Joy mode needs to send to Australia 👌🏼
What product do you recommend for the prostrate?
🙇…Hey I resemble this remark! Thanks cV😊 Best…
Your. So hot thank you
Love your videos – I’m learning from each! Thank you
self control is Big. this video might create animals without being told about keeping selfcontrol, maintaining what u manifest , to not fein into mind lust , cus we cant force lust onto any woman without her own consent.
Thinking about sex just makes me depressed that I'm not getting any, but at least I'm getting pretty focused on the gym and getting in better shape.
Is it time for a spring fling one off coaching session? It is slower progress but still making improvements!!! Great motivational video today. Thanks again.
I had this talk with a young female that I’ve been mentoring. Well said
I never tried joymode! I do struggle with my erectien ‘s
Yea when I’m here sitting in our couch! I think about when in our early marriage! My wife used to be crazy about sex! About me! Will be married 33 years next month! I tell her how don’t let her age slow you down!! I’ll be 56! I’m more sexually attracted to her now!
I do fantasize about my wife and our past sex! I tell my wife how much I miss us having sex in a pool we had in our room at the poconos! I tell my wife I can’t get her out of my mind! Even her sitting on the couch next to me! I’m always thinking about us having sex! Like how we used to do! My uncle and aunts pool! It was so sexy in our room pool! Another amazing topic ! Love your vedio’s! Very educational
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Despite what men claim, only 15 percent have a penis longer than seven inches. Only 3 percent have a penis more than eight inches long.👅👅👅🍌🍌🍌
I must be the best person in the world! 💝🌍 😂
Absolutely love that top! Drove me into a beautiful flashback…
I would love to be a sex doctor ❤
Wow! Very powerful information. Where was this information 40 years ago?