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Well, that's going to be a stretch for me, I last saw my father when I was 10 years old and my mother and I never got along when I was growing up and we don't speak now. My mother and I even when I was a teenager we barely spoke, I was working from the time I was 12 years old and was never home a lot. Even when I wasn't working, after school I would do things that I could, learning how to use different equipment in shop class, photography, I didn't do sports because even though she had the money, my mother wouldn't pay for things or take me to practice. When I was 16 and driving I was always working, especially in the summer. My mother remarried but she and my stepfather cheated on each other all the time, which is the same thing her and my father did to each other. One of the things I believe in very strongly is staying faithful in a relationship because I have seen first hand what it does not only to the relationship but to everyone around them. My mother is now 70, living with another guy she married that was cheating on his wife and she has cheated on him at least once and they're both miserable in their home lives. I stay away from it because frankly I just don't need the drama and chaos in my or my immediate family's life.
My parents were awesome!! They showed me exactly how not to be 😅 Thanks mom and step-dad where ever you are…
All true, attachment theory has helped me learn so much about myself. When your own parents are shitty and on top of that traumatize you sexually it's so unfortunate. Luckily all can be over come if the emotional healing is done.
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Thanks for this informative video.
While watching it, I felt like you were looking inside my mind, reading my thoughts.
I'm a huge proponent of attachment theory. Our earliest relationships are so formative, they really do have lifelong impacts. There's a great book (I forget the author's name sorry) called 'Why Love Matters'. Should be required reading for all expecting parents. Thanks for the video ❤
Well, my parents married going on 64 years now! so I guess I am all good! if i just copy them! they talk and till play a bunch teenagers even today. very rare now days if u ask me, they commutate so well talk about everything from the big to the very small and they say that is why it works to this day, that is why i believe them i see it and it truly believe it.
+caitlinvictoriousx With all due respect, Mrs. Neal, I am an autist whom the school systems o' the late-20th-Century United States failed. Mind you, back in the 1960's, the United States in Congress Assembled, and the State of California and the OMS (viz., Oriental Missionary Society) Holiness Church of North America under 'em, were at the foot o' the learning curve for neurodivergent education, thus the four ensuing decades of immature resources whereto I am witness. I never developed senses of/for emotional essentials in relationships due to internal, unconscious emotional blocks that not only derailed growth-seeking in infancy and prevented my lerarning relational fundamentals but also set me up for Legalistic Perfectionism: In fact, having YET to experience a Guiding Relationship as defined by Steven E. Gutstein Ph.D., I'm clueless w/r/t mind-guidance and critically hamstrung w/r/t dynamic intelligence.
As a child, I's driven to adult due to said emotional blocks. I's in shallow romantic involvements until I played the fool o' Proverbs 7; then I saw the disastrous effects o' controlled substances firsthand; thus my antalcoholism, asexual penchants and eternal-copyright syndrome that are signs of said Legalistic Perfectionism. I take NO Song, NO Tune, NO Poem, NO Lecture, NO Address as public domain, no matter how old; I even track down Publishers that are heirs to the Publishers of record, or, failing that, the Copyright and Performance-Right organizations of original jurisdiction, e.g. for a four-pass I recently did on SingSnapⓇ:
GOOD KING WENCESLAS / Victorian (GBR) Epoch Chori
( Didrik Petri / John Mason Neale ) Geſellſchaft für Muſıkaliſche Aufführungs- und Mechaniſche Vervielfältigungsrechte, BIEM / Hymns Ancient and Modern plc, MCPS-PRS
Music originally published 1582 as "Tempus adeſt floridum" in Jaakko Finno, Editor, Piæ cantiones eccleſıaſticæ et ſcholaſticæ ueterum epiſcoporum, in Inclyto Regno Гueciæ paßim uſurpatæ, nuper ſtudio viri cuiusdam Reverendißi de Eccleſıa Dei et ſchola Aboënſı in Finlandia opinuè meriti accuratè à mendis correctæ, et nunc typis commiſſæ, opera Theodorici Petri Nylandensis: Hie adieſti ſunt aliquot ex Pſalmis recentuorbiæ (Greifswald, Mecklenburg-Vorderpommern (DEU): Auguſtin Ferber (GeMA), 1582).
Lyrics originally published 1853 by Hymns Ancient and Modern Ltd. (MCPS), London, GBR.
I already found Gutstein and Sheely's design-patented Relationship Development Intervention Program as best meeting my immediate requirements, but no properly trained human resources are within reasonable distance of Byron, CA, USA: The nearest current (as of January 2024) Connections Center for Relationship Development (Houston, TX, USA) Certified RDI Consultant to East Contra Costa is in San Diego County (CA, USA), an impracticable distance. It looks as though my Relationship Development Assessment will have to wait.
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Attributing behaviour to underlying subconscious forces is tricky stuff. For instance, the 'cheating' father might (in his behaviour) validate infidelity for his son.
My parents could have cared less about me. My father was a raging Alcoholic, my mother was a soulless Evil Monster. Who cared less for anyone she could not Control. They are both Deceased.
Ridiculous
Eww
Therapy. Not a Coach. Therapy!
I agree with everything you said. I would like to add that we often have some uncertainties as parents about what we display in front of our children. Every parent knows the sudden change in their sex lives when there are kids in the house. "If we do it, the bedroom door needs to be locked and we need to be very quiet." Even with our kids becoming young adults, we still make sure to keep our intimate times private and as silent as possible. But we also make a point to show affection for each other in our kid's view. We hug, snuggle, and kiss in front of them. I bring my wife flowers just because I love her and we say "I love you" often. We want to set a good example of a loving relationship. But we draw a clear line between public and private affection.
My Mom died at 5yrs old, My father spent more time trying to find me another "mom" than spending time with me. He was gentleman to the women he dated, which were independent like my mom but he never married again until 1 year after I got married.
Oh, fuck… I resonate so much with the avoidance part. Grew up in a strict family, and now I would actively pull away if I sensed anything. I can have a great friendship with a girl, but it is hard.
Screaming "want a girlfriend" but will reject girls' confession. Fucketh me.
You are the best
I don't have a relationship with my parents.
My sex life is non-existent.
This title checks out. 😪
I think it's really important for people to understand that we aren't stuck with the emotional baggage left by others in our past who messed up our personality by treating us badly. With some concentrated personal effort, we can become the kind of person we want to be: securely attached personality type who can have healthy, loving relationships. We are not stuck with our past. We can each be healthy and happy if we choose, by relearning how to interact with others in positive ways.
It doesn't say anything about my relationship with my parents or vice versa
Thanks for this video. I can relate to the relationships about the parents. I was afraid as far dating goes partly due to my shyness but also the fear of my parents finding out about my relationships with another woman.
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